Rush

Suddenly, we’re in a bit of a panic around here. Everything is all in a rush.

I can’t believe we’re getting down to WEEKS before we bring our beautiful baby girl, no longer a mystery, home to us.

We are woefully unprepared. The problem with all the accordion waits in the adoption process is that you never *really* feel engaged, so you do what has to be done at any given time to get through to the next stage. Homestudy home inspection tasks are done to pass your homestudy, but then the pressure eases off. Paperwork gets done as quick as you can, sent to where it has to go, and then you wait. There’s just no rush to get everything done because it’s such a long process, and there’s no one to inspire your activity until the very end.

Well, we are nearing the very end.

So it’s time to get cracking. I have baby linens to wash. I have to haul all the furniture out of my girl’s room so I can vacuum and shampoo the carpets, and wash and paint the walls. All the furniture has to be moved back INTO her room, put where we want to have it for when she is home. I have to get the kitchen organized with places to store her bottles and food and dishes. I have to get all her clothes put away, or stored, or whatever we are going to do with them.

All these things could have been done earlier, but we procrastinated. Not knowing who would be joining our family or when made it difficult to clean and organize when the dust would just gather again and many things would be moved in and out of the room as we stocked shelves and drawers.

There will be last-minute things, too. We have to buy some of the essentials of baby life, like a stroller and toys and an exersaucer, that we haven’t gotten yet. We also have to buy some “perishables”, like medicines and food and formula — stuff that is time-sensitive. And we have to prepare for our trip, so I’m going to have to start planning, cooking and freezing meals for the first few weeks we are back. And we’re going to need luggage. Duffel bags from our coaching days just aren’t going to work for a round-the-world trip.

All this on top of work that I have taken on, to earn a bit of money to help offset all the expense of adoption and preparing and travelling.

So, as you can imagine, things are suddenly getting a bit rushed around here. Not that I am complaining — it’s a good thing. It’s just a bit overwhelming, and a bit stressful. But these are times when you have to keep your eyes on the prize, and hopefully that will make light work of the weeks ahead.

I can’t believe we’ve gotten this far. I can’t believe we are this close.

BDH wants to go TOMORROW if possible. I am a little shellshocked at the list of things to be done. I’d prefer a couple of weeks to prepare. I like to be organized.

Somehow I doubt that will be the case. But I will do my best.

I’d make a list, but part of me thinks I can’t afford the time.

5 thoughts on “Rush

  1. Wow, I can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now. I hopw everything progresses smoothly for you. I understand the feeling of not being engaged in the process. We’re still in the wait for our CAS reference checks & I was telling someone today that I think I’m losing touch with the end result of this wait, that all this paperwork = baby. I must admit, it’s starting to blow my mind.

  2. Yeah, there are moments during all these months of paperwork and procedure and waiting when you think “OMG, there’s a BABY at the end of all this!” and that kind of gets your enthusiasm going and kicks you into high gear, for a short time, anyway. But otherwise, it’s hard to imagine the end is ever going to come, and you will be a family. The waiting kind of numbs you.

    Even as much as a few weeks ago, when we were told we’d be pushed back to travel — even though we have a picture and a name and are legally parents to a little girl — it did not all seem really REAL yet. It’s as though it’s just something you are watching on TV or is happening to somebody else, because all you have is what you see on your computer screen or in your email or is told to you by a disembodied voice at the other end of the phone line. So to have it suddenly so close, it’s a big jolt — “WAH! WAKE UP! You have THIS and THIS and THIS to do!”

    And that’s pretty exciting. And pretty daunting, to first-time parents such as ourselves for sure.

  3. ah yes that is the great irony of waiting so long… at the end, there’s NOT ENOUGH TIME!! 🙂 Don’t panic, it will all get done. Here is my 2 cents, not that you asked for it (heh): I would do the room first, and then the cooking. Meals in the freezer saved my life. The heck with the organizing, once she is home you will probably decide stuff would work better in a different spot anyway. Buy the stroller and carseat but I bet the rest of the gear will be showered on you as gifts.

    Oh and as for the luggage… duffel bags are actually an excellent idea for this trip. They are light so you are not losing weight allowance on a bag, and you can cram them really full of donations and still be under the limit. They don’t have parts to break off after being dropped to the ground from the plane (seriously I watched bags being dropped onto the tarmac at Frankfurt), and if they get torn a little duct tape will do the trick. I took 2 duffel bags as my luggage and they were perfect. And if you end up with less luggage on the way home then you can just stuff one inside another, or ditch it. (Or fill it with 50 pounds of coffee…)

  4. Awesome advice June! Thanks so much! It’s really a crazy time, as you well know, and its even hard to get organized! So it’s nice to get some advice from someone who’s been there and done it already!

  5. Wow I’m played out from reading about everything you have to do yet! Take the time to make a list, it is always worth the time and it feels so good to check things off once you are done. Good luck on all your projects.
    Shannon

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