I’ve had a week full of decisions. I’ve had to try, in some very complicated situations and some not so complicated, to make the right decision. One thing I have learned is that the “right” decision is in the eye of the beholder.
I am learning a lot, however. I am learning that all a person can do is to make the best decision they can given the facts they have before them. I am learning that a good decision is not necessarily the popular decision. I am learning that despite your best intentions, you cannot please everyone with your decisions. And I am learning that this is okay.
I am the type of person who agonizes over all the details, worries about all the people involved, frets over what the “best” decision will be. It upsets me that I may upset others. So sometimes, making the right decision can be an excruciating back-and-forth with myself of possibilities and ideas and repercussions. Sometimes, the anticipation of fallout is worse than the results of my decision actually bear out.
But in the end, when you make a decision and choose a course of action, some people will be happy, and some will be pissed off. Some decisions will be easy, and some will involve lessons to be learned. Some will turn out to be good decisions, and others will show you a better way for next time. And that is just the way it works. Ultimately, you have to be happy with the decisions you made. You cannot control outcomes. You cannot take ownership of others’ feelings. You just have to be at peace that you did you best.
And I know the old adage “the road to hell is paved with good intentions” is frequently quoted for a good reason. But I am okay with that. In the end, you go on faith in yourself, that you have done what you thought was best given the knowledge available to you. And if that is the case, no matter the fallout, your decision was a good one.